Taking Responsibility And Letting Go

There are times in our lives where we feel powerless over ourselves. We feel like our behaviors and our feelings are out of control and cause us to do or say things that we would not otherwise do. Each of us has a special creator given power from the moment of our births which has been passed down from generation to generation which allows us unconditional control over ourselves. We equally have the power to release that control over to a person, a mood, circumstances or attitudes.

Now, I am not saying that you can wave your hand magically, and make all the bad stuff go away, but while you may not be able to control the situations you find yourselves in, you can always control your reactions to it. The mind is the center and key of all this.  Too often we allow depression, anger, sadness or frustration to creep in and we give it control. We change our behaviors and how we treat others, those we call friends, those we love, in ways that even we would find unacceptable, save for the presence of those dark emotions or unfortunate circumstances.  But even in this there is a choice.

Every day, people are stricken with disease, met with disaster and experience great joys and sorrows.  Some people react to those by caving in and tossing in a  white flag, others respond by working through the problem within its own context and environment.

Those who cave in will shun friends, say bad things, act in a way that is out of integrity or disrespectful toward others. They will “excuse” their behavior by citing the string of circumstances that lead up to their faux pas with little acknowledgement that person or persons that took the brunt of the offense were not related to the problematic circumstances in any way. I call these folks the reactible people, and we touched on the idea in an earlier article “Respond or React”  available in our library online. The reactibles don’t think or consider how their behavior relates to those affected by it, they just do what they do for their own maximized benefit.

On the other hand, Responsible People will take a moment to look at their behavior, and when it was not prompted by those who took the brunt will apologize, and make some sincere effort at changing. They will seek to put the problem BACK within the context it really belongs and will seek to change their behavior in the future so that it does not end up hurting the ones they love.

Letting go goes hand in hand with this idea, as we sometimes must let go of our need to control. To control our environment or to control others we will doubtless end up allowing ourselves to be manipulates back into a reactive state of mind and body. A State where we lose those contexts, we react in action though word and deed in ways that are out of integrity with our mind AND our physical body.  

In letting go, we look at the reactives in our life and respond by letting them go, giving them space, doing what it takes to allow them the evolutionary progress so that they too can put things back into perspective and contexts and return to a responsive state of mind, body and being.

And then, when they are ready, and they wish to do so, we can welcome them back.

If it is to be….

For R.P. From Qualeigh